Some people dream, some don’t, or at least they don’t remember doing so.
But do dreams mean anything? Well, while people are convinced dreams are a form of messages received by forces we are unable to see or feel while wide awake, some scientists claim that dreams are simply a result of neuronal processes taking place within our brain.
While we are asleep, our brains are anything but.
Sometimes, dreams happen as a reflection of the day that passed, and other times they represent our fears. But what does it mean when we dream of a deceased person?
These dreams can be seen as part of the process of grieving or a transition that takes place in our own life. According to Healthline, it has to do with the latter.
These dreams are common when we experience certain changes, such as getting a new job, moving places, or meeting someone new.
What is most important than the dream itself, however, is how it make us feel.
Rubin Naiman, who has a Ph.D. in psychology, spent years of his life studying sleep patterns and habits. According to him, “Dream interpretation is about decoding the dream. It enlightens us and expands our awareness psychologically, [offering an] expansion of consciousness.”
So, dreaming of someone who is no longer alive may be related to the changes mentioned above and how those changes affect us.
”A lot of contemporary neuroscientists believe during REM sleep, the brain is involved in maintenance tasks, and it accidentally ‘kicks up dust,’ visually. At that end, dreaming is considered totally meaningless.” On the other hand he explains, “The other end is that dreaming is more substantial than waking. And we see this in ‘dream cultures,’ such as the indigenous people of Australia, who believe dreaming is intrinsic to our spiritual existence.”
Experts place these dreams into four categories.
- First, dreaming of a deceased person may be interpreted as the brain trying to work through the pain of the loss.
- If we hadn’t made amends with the deceased person before their passing, we may feel guilt and that might be the reason why they visit us in our dreams.
- According to Lauri Loewenberg, a dream analyst, we may be dreaming of a deceased person if we see some of their behaviors, such as substance abuse or else, in ourselves.
- There are experts who believe that these dreams represent a visitation from the deceased person, especially if we see them in a good condition in our dream, meaning they are well dressed or seem happy. If we feel good about the dream, it may mean that the deceased person says ‘Hello.’
No matter what we feel about dreams, the truth is that they offer something deep and meaningful. They often give us insight into the soul and our connection with the deceased person that we see in our dreams.
This $30 Cake Destroyed My Marriage – My Husband Broke Down in the Middle of His Birthday Party
At Tom’s lively birthday celebration, a seemingly innocent cake delivery unexpectedly turned the atmosphere from festive to frosty. When the cake was unveiled, revealing a shocking secret, the room fell into stunned silence as Tom’s betrayal was laid bare for friends and family to see.
I was rushing around the house, making sure everything looked perfect for Tom’s birthday party. Balloons floated in corners, and streamers hung from the ceiling, adding pops of color everywhere.
The living room buzzed with laughter and chatter as early guests started to arrive, bringing with them the warm, comforting smell of home-cooked dishes and the sound of cheerful greetings.
In the midst of setting up the snack table, the doorbell rang. I wiped my hands on my apron and hurried to answer it. A delivery man stood there, holding a large box with a cheerful “Happy Birthday!” sticker plastered on the side.
“For you,” he said, handing me the box that was surprisingly heavy.
“Oh, I didn’t order this,” I murmured, more to myself than to him, as I signed for the package. I assumed it was a surprise from one of Tom’s friends or his family. Busy as I was, I thanked him quickly and placed the cake box on the kitchen counter to deal with later.
As the party filled up, Tom was the center of attention, laughing and clapping his friends on the back. He always had this easy charm that made everyone feel welcome. His parents, Jane and Michael, brought in a homemade pie, smiling broadly.
They hugged me, praising the decorations and the cozy atmosphere. My best friend Lisa was right behind them, her arms laden with gifts and her kids in tow, adding to the joyful chaos.
In the kitchen, I finally had a moment to slide the mysterious cake into the fridge. Curiosity got the better of me, and I lifted the lid just enough to sneak a peek. There was a picture on the cake, but it wasn’t the happy birthday message I expected. It looked like a screenshot of a text conversation, but I couldn’t make out the details.
“Need any help in here?” Lisa’s voice snapped me back to reality.
I quickly closed the cake box, plastering a smile on my face. “Just trying to make room for everything,” I replied, pushing the box into the fridge.
As we walked back to the living room, I shook off the uneasy feeling. It was probably just a quirky joke from Tom’s work friends, I thought. They always tried to outdo each other with humorous gifts.
The party buzzed with energy, everyone enjoying the food and music. Tom’s laughter mingled with the happy chatter of our friends and family. I moved through the crowd, refilling drinks and sharing laughs, my mind occasionally drifting back to the odd cake in the fridge.
I decided to wait until we were ready to cut it. After all, it was just a cake, and it wouldn’t spoil the night I had spent weeks planning. But deep down, I couldn’t shake the nagging thought that something was off.
The room was lively, filled with the warmth of close friends and family, all gathered to celebrate Tom’s birthday. As the clock ticked closer to cake time, I felt a surge of energy.
I excused myself, heading back to the kitchen to retrieve the cake. My hands were steady but my heart wasn’t. The earlier unease had settled in my stomach, a constant reminder that something might be amiss.
As I rolled the cake out on the cart, the guests gathered around, their voices rising in a chorus of “Happy Birthday.” Tom’s face lit up with a broad smile, his eyes twinkling in the glow of the candles. Everyone cheered, clapping him on the back, waiting for the grand reveal of the cake.
I took a deep breath and lifted the lid off the cake box. The room fell silent in an instant. All eyes were glued to the cake, not because of its design or size, but because of the image plastered across it—a screenshot of a text conversation between Tom and someone named Jenna. The messages were clear, unmistakably intimate, words no wife should ever have to read about her husband.
Whispers cut through the silence. “What is that?” “Is this some kind of joke?”
Tom’s face drained of color. He looked from the cake to me, his mouth opening but no words coming out.
I found my voice, though it trembled. “Tom, what is this?” I asked loudly, the room echoing my question in their hushed murmurs.
“It’s not what it looks like, Ella,” Tom stammered, his eyes darting around the room as if looking for an escape.
“Not what it looks like?” I repeated, my voice rising. “It looks like you’ve been cheating on me, Tom. With Jenna? Who is Jenna?”
The room was heavy with shock, Tom’s friends and family looking from him to me, unsure of where to stand or what to say. His mother covered her mouth with her hand, tears in her eyes.
“Ella, I can explain,” Tom said, reaching out to me. I stepped back, refusing his touch.
“Explain? In front of everyone? You owe me that much, don’t you?” I demanded, my hands shaking but my voice firm. The cake, once a symbol of celebration, now sat between us—a stark, sweet betrayal.
Tom looked around, the weight of the eyes on him too much to bear. “I’m sorry,” he whispered, but the words were hollow, lost in the larger echo of his deceit.
The party was over. The silence said it all. No more laughter, no more chatter. Just a room full of people stunned by the truth laid bare on a $30 cake.
Tom attempted to speak, to salvage some shred of dignity, but his explanations faltered against the undeniable truth displayed for all to see. “It was a mistake,” he kept saying, but the words sounded empty, meaningless.
One by one, the guests made their excuses and left, leaving behind a wake of cold, uneaten cake and broken promises. Finally, Tom was left alone in the center of the chaos he had caused, isolated even in his attempts to explain.
With the last guest gone, the silence of the house was deafening. I sat in the quiet, the remnants of the party around me, and thought about everything Tom and I had built together. Love, trust, years of memories—all tainted now. The pain of the betrayal was sharp and deep, but even in the midst of it, a resolve was forming within me.
I knew what I needed to do. Respect and trust were the foundations of any marriage, and once they were gone, what was left to build on? I couldn’t live in the shadow of Tom’s choices. It was not just about what I had learned today; it was about self-respect, about not settling for someone who could so easily deceive me.
I decided to end our marriage. It was not a decision made out of anger, but out of a profound need to reclaim my life and my self-worth. As I stood up, the empty house seemed to echo back my resolve, its emptiness a mirror of what remained of our relationship.
Stepping outside, I looked back at the home that had harbored so many dreams and secrets. Tomorrow, I would start anew, building a life marked not by what I had lost, but by what I had chosen to gain: my freedom and dignity. The night was quiet, and in its silence, I found my first moment of peace.
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