According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
What Happens to Your Nose When Death is Near? The Answer Will Shock You
Death is a topic that many people find mysterious and a bit scary. Throughout history, humans have tried to understand what happens at the end of life. Interestingly, some scientific studies suggest that our sense of smell might help us understand when death is approaching. It seems our nose can provide clues about when death might happen, both by detecting when someone else is nearing death and by losing our sense of smell, which can be a sign of our own health issues.
One interesting thing about our sense of smell is that it might be able to detect when someone else is near death. Many people have shared stories about noticing a particular smell before a loved one passed away. These experiences suggest that there might be a mysterious sixth sense connected to our sense of smell.
Several theories try to explain this interesting phenomenon. One idea is that as the body gets closer to death, it produces certain chemicals or odors that most people cannot smell, but some individuals with a stronger sense of smell can detect. Another theory suggests that our sense of smell is connected to subtle changes in our emotions, helping us sense the upcoming loss of someone we care about. It’s not that we consciously realize we are smelling death; instead, our sense of smell might alert us that it is near.
While there isn’t a lot of scientific proof on this topic, some intriguing studies have been done. For example, researchers at the University of Chicago found that animals like dogs and cats can detect chemical changes in people with specific medical conditions, such as cancer. Similarly, it seems that humans with a keen sense of smell might also sense when death is approaching. There are even stories of animals living in hospitals or care homes that can often predict when a patient is about to pass away.
As we learn more about the human body, we are uncovering new connections and insights into how different systems and senses work together. The sense of smell, often not given as much attention as sight or hearing, appears to play a significant role in predicting when death is near for others and in understanding our future health. More research is needed to confirm these interesting discoveries. Scientists are looking into the chemical changes that happen in the body before death, as well as how problems with the sense of smell might affect overall health and the risk of dying. With a better understanding, we might be able to create diagnostic tools that use our sense of smell, which could lead to timely and potentially life-saving treatments.
The idea that “the body knows when death is near, and it begins in your nose” is an intriguing subject for research. The ability to detect death in others through smell and the loss of smell as a sign of future health creates new opportunities for discovery in medicine and human biology. By studying and utilizing our sense of smell, we could gain important insights into life and death, which may help enhance our overall well-being.
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