Smaller houses and apartments don’t stop many Japanese couples from sleeping in different beds or even rooms. This is not some kind of an intimate issue or problem with the relationship, but something that they believe is good for them.
We at Bright Side found out why married couples in Japan choose to sleep separately, and we really like their reasons.
They have different sleep schedules.
The first thing that makes Japanese couples decide to go to bed separately is different work schedules. Waking up your significant other just because you got home late from work or have to leave early won’t result in good quality rest for them. This is why spending the night in a different room makes sense. This will give them both an undisturbed and healthier sleep.
Babies sleep with their mothers.
Japanese mothers sleep with their children and this is considered very important, so the father needs to decide if he wants to share the same bed or go to a different room. Even science has proven that co-sleeping can help parents and children get a more restful sleep. It helps the child to maintain a stable temperature and heart rate (which is really critical in infancy) and at the same time, it decreases the chance of sudden infant death syndrome. Also, this contributes to the child having better self-esteem, becoming independent faster, and doing great in school.
For them, sleeping separately means peace.
While many couples who start to sleep alone think that divorce is at their door, the Japanese see it differently. They value their sleep a lot and they don’t want to be disturbed while sleeping. This means that they don’t need and don’t like to put up with snoring, restless sleep, kicking, etc. Even though some don’t have the opportunity to sleep in different rooms, they still wish they could get their beauty sleep.
Couples have a history of sleeping separately.
Futons are filled with cotton, which provides support and comfort. In the past, only single sized ones were used as beds. So, even if you wanted to cuddle up with your loved one, you would have ended up between the sheets, on the cold floor, and you wouldn’t feel comfortable. Today there are families that still use this type of bedding, especially because it doesn’t take up a lot of space and it is easy to store.
Do you sleep separately from your partner? Do you think this type of practice might be even better for your relationship?
My grandson kicked me out of his wedding because of my ‘dress’. Karma hit back 5 minutes later.
The day of my grandson Justin’s wedding was one I had been looking forward to for months. I had meticulously chosen a dress that was elegant yet flattering, showcasing the results of a lifetime dedication to fitness. As a 72-year-old who still actively participates in sports, I was proud of my figure and wanted to feel glamorous for this special occasion.
However, as soon as I arrived at the venue, Justin’s face twisted in disapproval. He approached me, his tone harsh and his words cutting deep. “Grandma, what are you wearing? This is embarrassing for our family. You need to go home and change.”
My heart sank. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Was it so wrong for me to want to look feminine and feel beautiful at my grandson’s wedding? I had no intention of leaving or changing my dress, but Justin’s attitude made it clear I wasn’t welcome unless I complied. With a heavy heart, I decided I wouldn’t stay where I wasn’t appreciated. I informed him that not only would I not be returning today, but if he ever invited me to another event, I would wear the same dress.
The Unraveling
Just as I was grabbing my jacket, ready to walk out and never look back, my son – Justin’s father – rushed over to me, his face pale with urgency. “Mom, wait! You won’t believe what just happened. Justin, he…”
The words hung in the air as he struggled to catch his breath. Curiosity and concern made me pause. What could possibly have happened in the few moments since Justin humiliated me?
A Sudden Twist
We hurried back towards the main hall, where a scene of chaos had unfolded. Guests were murmuring, eyes wide with shock, and the air was thick with tension. As we pushed through the crowd, I saw Justin at the center of it all, looking pale and distressed.
It turned out that just moments after our confrontation, Justin’s bride, Emma, had called off the wedding. She had overheard his harsh words to me and decided that if he could treat his own grandmother with such disrespect, he wasn’t the man she wanted to marry. Emma’s decision sent shockwaves through the gathering, leaving Justin to face the immediate consequences of his actions.
The Lesson
Standing there amidst the stunned crowd, I felt a mix of emotions. Justin’s embarrassment was palpable, but there was also a sense of justice in the air. His behavior had consequences, and Emma’s bold decision had highlighted the importance of respect and kindness, values that should never be compromised.
Justin’s wedding day didn’t end as planned, this shook my grandson well. But perhaps it was a necessary wake-up call. As for me, I walked away with my head held high, confident in the knowledge that staying true to oneself and standing up for one’s dignity is always the right choice.
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