Some actors can evoke deep emotions just by hearing their names, and Paul Newman is definitely one of them. He remains a legendary figure in cinema, beloved for his iconic roles and his enduring legacy.
Newman, who passed away in 2008, was married to actress Joanne Woodward, forming one of Hollywood’s most admired couples. Together, they shared a remarkable journey of love and creativity, which continues through their grandchildren.
Paul Newman starred in unforgettable films such as Cat on a Hot Tin Roof (1958), Sweet Bird of Youth (1962), Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid (1969), and The Color of Money (1986). His marriage to Joanne, which lasted until his death at 83, was a true partnership filled with shared passions, including acting, travel, and family life.
Joanne, who married Paul on January 29, 1958, in Las Vegas, had her own successful career, known for taking on strong, independent roles in a time when many actresses were often typecast. Their love story began when they met in New York in 1953, shortly after Paul divorced his first wife, Jackie Witte.
Together, Paul and Joanne had three daughters: Elinor Teresa (born 1959), Melissa Stewart (born 1961), and Claire Olivia (born 1965). Paul also had three children from his first marriage: Scott (born 1950), Susan (born 1953), and Stephanie (born 1954). Tragically, Scott passed away in 1978.
Today, Paul and Joanne’s legacy lives on through their two grandchildren, Peter and Henry Elkind, sons of Melissa “Lissy” Stewart and her husband Raphael Elkind. As the only male heirs in the family, they carry forward their grandfather’s remarkable lineage.
Peter, a nature enthusiast who enjoys various sports, shares a striking resemblance to Paul, complete with his grandfather’s famous smile and piercing blue eyes. In the recent HBO documentary The Last Movie Stars, Peter reflected on his relationship with Paul, stating: “I knew about the movies and thought it was really cool, but he was more like my grandfather”. He also expressed the difficulty of losing him, saying: “It was really hard when he died because he was such a big part of my life. I admired him so much and loved him so much”.
Henry, Peter’s brother, graduated last year and is pursuing a music career in New York, where he shares his work on popular streaming platforms. He, too, bears a striking resemblance to Paul, embodying the charm and charisma that defined his grandfather.
Both grandsons exemplify the values and legacy their grandparents established, continuing to honor their family’s rich history. Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward’s love story is truly exceptional, and their over 50 years of marriage is a testament to their enduring bond, a remarkable example of Hollywood’s golden age.
Matt Heath: My parting message: Enjoy things while they are around
A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
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