A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
Pit Bull Attack Survivor’s Incredible Facial Transformation through Plastic Surgery! Tap Here for Captivating ‘After’ Photos.
Brooklinn Khoury, a well-known influencer who rose to prominence following a harrowing dog attack back in 2020, has been chronicling her journey to recovery on various social media platforms. With an impressive following of over 450,000 on Instagram, Khoury has garnered significant support and has also shared her inspiring story through vlogs on her YouTube channel, becoming a beacon of motivation for countless individuals to never abandon their aspirations.
The trajectory of this woman’s life was forever altered in the blink of an eye. Renowned professional skateboarder Brooklinn Khoury recently took to social media to unveil the results of her latest reconstructive surgery. Having endured a traumatic pit bull attack that resulted in the loss of her upper lip and a portion of her nose, the 23-year-old has undergone an arduous series of seven surgeries aimed at reconstructing her face.
Through a series of photographs, Khoury proudly exhibits the outcomes of what she hopes will be her final procedure, while also opening up about the emotional journey she has traversed during this process.
“In essence, my doctor is recreating my upper lip during this surgery—fashioning a Cupid’s bow and central columns. The goal is to enhance the aesthetic appearance of my lip,” Khoury explained during her interview, revealing that these surgeries usually span the entire day due to her doctor’s meticulous approach. “My doctor is exceedingly cautious and strives for perfection in every aspect.”
According to Khoury, the recovery period following her latest reconstructive surgery may encompass up to six weeks. She disclosed that she would experience temporary numbness in her upper lip immediately after the procedure, with the possibility of sensation returning over a span of four months.
Surgeries have now become an integral part of Brooklinn’s life. Having survived the pit bull attack, she now finds herself in a perpetual patient-doctor relationship with a plastic surgeon—a circumstance that presents both physical and mental challenges.
Despite her doctor’s renowned pursuit of perfection, Khoury maintains no specific expectations regarding the final appearance of her face following the reconstructive surgeries.
“My personal aspiration, just like with any surgery I undergo, is to learn to embrace and love what I see,” she shared. “Previously, I would fixate on insignificant details that held no real significance. For instance, right before the attack, I was insecure about a pimple on my upper lip. And then, within minutes, my entire lip was gone.”
Brooklinn has emerged as a genuine inspiration, touching the lives of many with her unwavering optimism. On her Instagram account, she continues to share the progress of her recovery, imparting a sense of hope and resilience to her followers. In one of her posts, she writes, “Nearly three weeks post-op! The healing process is progressing admirably. Still experiencing some swelling, but I feel incredibly blessed with the results!”
“I have always possessed confidence and never truly cared about my physical appearance. I genuinely love myself and the way I look. However, society doesn’t always align with my perspective,” she revealed, explaining her decision to openly share her story on social media despite the occasional judgmental glances and critical comments she encounters.
“For me personally, there’s no point in harboring self-consciousness, and I believe that posting on social media has definitely aided in my healing process,” Khoury expressed. “On social media, I am transparent and authentic. What you see is what you get.”
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