Only weeks after Millie Smith and Lewis Cann learned they were having twin baby girls, they learned that only one would survive.
On April 30, after 30 weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, Smith delivered identical twins, Callie and Skye, the latter who lived only three hours.
Later in neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), Callie slept without her sister in the incubator, with her loving and grieving parents watching over her. In the unit with other babies, an overwhelmed mom of healthy newborn twins innocently told Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have two babies.
Crushed by the words, the new mom couldn’t find the words to explain her loss. Then, she realized that Skye’s legacy was to help other families who lose a child, and it came in the form of a purple butterfly.
In November 2015 Millie Smith and partner Lewis Cann found out they were having their first Child. Smith, who has twins in the family, said she had a “gut feeling” about having a duo and 10 weeks later, doctors confirmed she was expecting identical twin girls.
Less than two weeks after the excitement of knowing they would double the children in their home, the British couple were devastated to learn that one of their babies had a fatal condition and wouldn’t survive after birth.
“During the scan, the doctor didn’t say anything. I was very excited and loved seeing the little babies, but she was silent. Both Lewis and I immediately knew there must be a problem,” Smith said.
Doctors shared the news that one of the babies had anencephaly, which according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) affects about one in 4,600 babies across the U.S. It’s a serious birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull, and “almost all babies born with anencephaly will die shortly after birth.”
Knowing that one baby would die soon after birth, and that there were risks involved for their other baby, the couple decided to move forward with the extremely high-risk pregnancy.
Over the next several months, Smith and Cann named their twins Skye and Callie. “We knew that Skye needed to have a name before she was born,” Smith said. “Knowing she would only survive for seconds or minutes, I wanted her to be named during that time.”
The meaning behind “Skye,” she explained “was somewhere we knew she would always be, that we could look up at the sky and remember our baby.”
When Smith went into labor after only 30 weeks on April 30, she needed an emergency C-section. To help navigate the loss, the couple had a “bereavement midwife” during the birth, and they were put I a special room the called the “Daisy Room,” where families can spend time with a baby before and after she/he passes.
“When the girls were born, they both cried. This was a huge moment, as we were told that Skye would not make a noise or move,” said Smith, who was thankful to have three hours with Skye before she died. “We were cuddling Skye when she passed away. This was the worst moment in our lives. I have never ever felt heartbreak like that before. But I am proud that she fought for so long to spend time with us.”
Born premature, Callie had to stay in NICU while she gained some strength and also in the unit were three other sets of twin.
“Most of the nurses were aware of what had happened, but as time passed, people stopped talking about Skye. After about four weeks, everyone acted as though nothing had happened, meaning the families around me had no idea about our situation,” Smith recalled.
One morning, a stressed mother whose twins were also in NICU, harmlessly said to Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have twins.
“None of the other parents knew what had happened or anything about Skye. The comment was completely innocent and more out of humor…They weren’t to know that I did at one point have two.” Smith continued, “But the comment nearly broke me. I ran out [of] the room in tears and they had no idea why. I didn’t have the heart to tell them what had happened. A simple sticker would have avoided that entire situation.”
It was in that moment Smith realized she had to create something that would speak for parents who had just lost a baby, ensuring the misunderstanding never happens again.
She designed a poster for the NICU explaining both hospital personnel and visitors that any incubator with a purple butterfly on it means that one or more babies, in a set of multiples were lost.
“I chose butterflies, as I felt it was fitting to remember the babies that flew away, the color purple because it is suitable for both boys or girls,” said Smith.
The purple butterfly concept–now under the Skye High Foundation–has spread to hospitals in several countries around the world.
Callie is now a lively, happy seven-year-old, and twin’s memory lives in purple butterfly cards along with other initiatives to help families with babies like Skye all over the world. The purple butterflies now come in numerous forms, like ornaments, cards, blankets, stuffed animals and more.
“Ultimately I will never be able to stop this from happening but the more support groups we can set up and put things in place like the stickers the better it will be. It’s the hardest thing anyone has to deal with,” Smith said.
Bo Derek is 66 now
Actress Bo Derek captivated audiences with her extraordinary beauty from the moment they first laid eyes on her. This stunning woman, who is probably best known for her part in the movie 10 that her husband directed, still has the same endearing appearance.
Bo recognized early on that acting was her vocation. Her mother, who worked for the Swedish-American actress Ann-Margeret, helped her land her first movie job when she was barely 16 years old. Bo initially met the actor and director John Derek while they were both working on the film Once Once a Love.
Bo was then 17 years old, and John, who was 30 years older than her, was married to the actress Linda Evans. John made the decision to get a divorce in order to be with Bo.
Bo, now 64, talks about her teenage affair and how she still regrets destroying Evans’ marriage to John.
“I was at least partially to blame for some severe suffering Linda Evans endured. She had shown a lot of kindness and grace. Funny enough, I just saw her yesterday. We were at a charity jewelry trunk exhibition.
She continued to be amazing and fabulous. When I’m around her, I always feel terrible. Years later, it’s just been engrained,” Bo stated to Interview Magazine in 2016.
Before getting married in Las Vegas in 1976, Bo and John dated for two years, spending the majority of that time in Mexico and Europe so that John could escape being detained for dating a minor.
Her blonde cornrow braids, which were a distinguishing aspect of Bo’s earlier appearances, have somehow managed to stick in people’s minds as the thing that makes her memorable. She explained that getting that hairstyle was her husband’s suggestion, and she didn’t realize how much they would mean to her.
“I’m blond, it was the latter decade of the 1970s, and everything was fluffy,” What will you change about your appearance? John, who is a talented photographer, had always believed that would be a wonderful look for me.
And so we did. Then he suggested that they present Blake with these images to see if he would be interested. She told Interview Magazine, “That would be incredibly excellent for the part, so you don’t appear ordinary.
Bo had a variety of roles over the years, notably in John’s films, such as Tarzan, The Ape Man (1981), Bolero (1984), and Ghosts Can’t Do It (1990), as well as the television shows 7th Heaven, Lucky, and Queen of Swords.
At the age of 71, John Derek passed away in 1998. Bo had no intention of getting married again, but she began dating 60-year-old actor John Corbett. “We make each other laugh and enjoy each other’s company.
Bo once stated, “We still hold hands after 15 years, and we still have barbecues with friends once or twice a week. They made the decision to get married in 2020.
Horses, who play a significant role in Bo’s life, have become her obsession. Riding Lessons: All That Matters in Life I Learned from Horses is the title of an autobiography she also penned.
She became an animal activist who advocates for the rights of animals because she cares about them. She devotes a lot of her time to missions that demand an end to the slaughter of horses.
Bo is still one of the most attractive actresses now and leads a happy life in California.
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