Only weeks after Millie Smith and Lewis Cann learned they were having twin baby girls, they learned that only one would survive.
On April 30, after 30 weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, Smith delivered identical twins, Callie and Skye, the latter who lived only three hours.
Later in neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), Callie slept without her sister in the incubator, with her loving and grieving parents watching over her. In the unit with other babies, an overwhelmed mom of healthy newborn twins innocently told Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have two babies.
Crushed by the words, the new mom couldn’t find the words to explain her loss. Then, she realized that Skye’s legacy was to help other families who lose a child, and it came in the form of a purple butterfly.
In November 2015 Millie Smith and partner Lewis Cann found out they were having their first Child. Smith, who has twins in the family, said she had a “gut feeling” about having a duo and 10 weeks later, doctors confirmed she was expecting identical twin girls.
Less than two weeks after the excitement of knowing they would double the children in their home, the British couple were devastated to learn that one of their babies had a fatal condition and wouldn’t survive after birth.
“During the scan, the doctor didn’t say anything. I was very excited and loved seeing the little babies, but she was silent. Both Lewis and I immediately knew there must be a problem,” Smith said.
Doctors shared the news that one of the babies had anencephaly, which according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) affects about one in 4,600 babies across the U.S. It’s a serious birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull, and “almost all babies born with anencephaly will die shortly after birth.”
Knowing that one baby would die soon after birth, and that there were risks involved for their other baby, the couple decided to move forward with the extremely high-risk pregnancy.
Over the next several months, Smith and Cann named their twins Skye and Callie. “We knew that Skye needed to have a name before she was born,” Smith said. “Knowing she would only survive for seconds or minutes, I wanted her to be named during that time.”
The meaning behind “Skye,” she explained “was somewhere we knew she would always be, that we could look up at the sky and remember our baby.”
When Smith went into labor after only 30 weeks on April 30, she needed an emergency C-section. To help navigate the loss, the couple had a “bereavement midwife” during the birth, and they were put I a special room the called the “Daisy Room,” where families can spend time with a baby before and after she/he passes.
“When the girls were born, they both cried. This was a huge moment, as we were told that Skye would not make a noise or move,” said Smith, who was thankful to have three hours with Skye before she died. “We were cuddling Skye when she passed away. This was the worst moment in our lives. I have never ever felt heartbreak like that before. But I am proud that she fought for so long to spend time with us.”
Born premature, Callie had to stay in NICU while she gained some strength and also in the unit were three other sets of twin.
“Most of the nurses were aware of what had happened, but as time passed, people stopped talking about Skye. After about four weeks, everyone acted as though nothing had happened, meaning the families around me had no idea about our situation,” Smith recalled.
One morning, a stressed mother whose twins were also in NICU, harmlessly said to Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have twins.
“None of the other parents knew what had happened or anything about Skye. The comment was completely innocent and more out of humor…They weren’t to know that I did at one point have two.” Smith continued, “But the comment nearly broke me. I ran out [of] the room in tears and they had no idea why. I didn’t have the heart to tell them what had happened. A simple sticker would have avoided that entire situation.”
It was in that moment Smith realized she had to create something that would speak for parents who had just lost a baby, ensuring the misunderstanding never happens again.
She designed a poster for the NICU explaining both hospital personnel and visitors that any incubator with a purple butterfly on it means that one or more babies, in a set of multiples were lost.
“I chose butterflies, as I felt it was fitting to remember the babies that flew away, the color purple because it is suitable for both boys or girls,” said Smith.
The purple butterfly concept–now under the Skye High Foundation–has spread to hospitals in several countries around the world.
Callie is now a lively, happy seven-year-old, and twin’s memory lives in purple butterfly cards along with other initiatives to help families with babies like Skye all over the world. The purple butterflies now come in numerous forms, like ornaments, cards, blankets, stuffed animals and more.
“Ultimately I will never be able to stop this from happening but the more support groups we can set up and put things in place like the stickers the better it will be. It’s the hardest thing anyone has to deal with,” Smith said.
A Cat and a Newborn Went Viral for Being Best Friends but People Are Worried, «Please Be Careful»
In the world of pet companionship, dogs often steal the spotlight for their perceived loyalty and affection towards humans, especially babies. Cats, on the other hand, have long been labeled as solitary and indifferent. But a heartening video shared on TikTok challenges this stereotype, showcasing the remarkable bond between a protective feline named Teddy and his human baby brother, William.
A bond that started from day one.
From the moment William entered the household, Teddy, the family cat, embraced him with open paws, assuming the role of a caring and watchful «big brother.» Contrary to expectations, Teddy didn’t display an ounce of jealousy but instead showered the newborn with affection and protection, much to the delight and surprise of his owners.
Capturing these precious moments on camera, William’s parents shared their growing friendship on TikTok, where it quickly gained attention from viewers worldwide. In the videos, Teddy is seen gently interacting with William, ensuring his safety and even playfully engaging with him in his baby seat. It’s evident that Teddy sees William as his own, forming an inseparable bond that transcends species.
One video went viral.
William and Teddy’s TikTok videos are a massive hit, with one in particular reaching almost 12 million views. Witnessing the cat’s tender and affectionate behavior towards the baby brings joy to all who watch their interactions. Whether it’s sleeping next to him, keeping watch over his dreams, or delicately holding him with his paws, the cat’s unwavering commitment to the baby is evident. Refusing to leave his side, the cat seems to intuitively understand the fragility and vulnerability of the little one, embodying a protective presence that touches the hearts of all who witness their bond.
Happy comments flooded in.
The touching videos shared by William’s parents evoke a range of emotions from viewers, with many expressing admiration for Teddy’s unwavering devotion to his baby brother. Comments flooding the videos reflect the universal appeal of their bond, with some jokingly suggesting that William may have become Teddy’s surrogate. «Could anything be more precious?» one user mentioned. Indeed, Teddy’s nurturing instincts and affectionate behavior have earned him the title of a first-rate babysitter in the eyes of his adoring fans.
While others worried about the cat and baby close together.
Some people expressed concerns about allowing pets near newborns. In one of the videos, we can see comments saying «Please be careful.» Allowing cats near babies is a matter of personal choice and depends on various factors, including the temperament of the cat, the health and safety concerns of the baby, and the supervision provided by the parents or caregivers.
While many cats can coexist peacefully with newborns and even develop strong bonds with them, it’s essential to exercise caution and take appropriate precautions to ensure the safety of both the baby and the cat. However, Teddy and William’s interactions challenge preconceived notions about cats’ personalities and showcase the depth of empathy and compassion these creatures are capable of displaying.
As Teddy continues to watch over William, offering comfort and companionship in his own feline way, their story serves as a heartening reminder of the transformative power of love, transcending boundaries of species and age. In a world often divided by differences, the pure and unconditional bond between a cat and a baby provides hope and warmth, reminding us of the inherent goodness that exists within us all.
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