I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
Your Brain Will Tell Your Secret When You See This Image
The brain is absolutely amazing and at times, we may not be using it to the full. That is why it is so important to ensure that you are exercising your mental abilities because it will pay off in the long run.
They often say that a picture is worth a thousand words but sometimes we may look at an image and determine there is more behind it that we may have first thought.
That is the case with this image that is an abstract stain and an unusual pattern. When you look at it, you may see one thing but somebody else may see something else. Letting us know what you see first tells us a lot about whether you are a left brained or right brained individual.
If you see a hot air balloon, you are more of a left brained individual. This means that you think logically and you tend to analyze every portion of what you are seeing. You aren’t afraid to look for detail.
If you see a jellyfish, you may be more of a right brained individual. These are people who are more creative and use their intuition to think outside of the box. You often have an artistic and visual skill that others don’t have.
The left brain versus right brain is nothing new. People in the psychology field have been talking about it for years because they realize that different sections of the brain produce different thoughts and thought patterns.
So what jumped out at you when you first saw the image? Are you a left brain or right brain person and more importantly, does this describe you?
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