My husband always praises and compliments his sister-in-law like she is the most perfect human being. Even when she is not around, he talks about her. It makes me feel awful compared to her. One day, I taught him a lesson that nearly made him cry.
My husband, Jerry, and I have been married for almost four years. We have two beautiful children, and while our lives have been busy and chaotic, we’ve managed to keep our relationship strong.
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Besides the occasional arguments, there is one thing Jerry does that annoys me. I don’t know if my husband does this on purpose or if just has a low EQ, but he knows that it bothers me yet he still does it.
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He thinks the sun shines out of his sister-in-law’s bottom. He sees her as a goddess, the embodiment of perfection. Nothing she says or does is wrong. Whenever we visit her, Jerry talks about her for three to four days afterward like he is in a trance. He compliments LITERALLY EVERYTHING she does.
One would think he was cheating, but I am sure he is not. They don’t even talk besides the times we all get together. Is he in love with her? I have no idea, but he is definitely insensitive towards my feelings.
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His sister-in-law, Grace, is married to Jerry’s brother, Martin. She’s always been the picture-perfect homemaker: three kids, an immaculate house, homemade meals. She somehow always looks put together. She makes motherhood seem so easy.
I’ve always admired her but never felt the need to compete. However, Jerry’s constant praise of her started to wear me down. One of our recent visits got the best of me, so I decided to give my husband a taste of his own medicine.
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We visited last weekend to see their new baby. I swear he was paying more attention to her and the baby than he ever did to me or any of our children. He complimented everything about her, from how she looked to how clean the house was to the delicious food.
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“Wow, Grace! No one would ever think you had just given birth. You look incredible!” he said as we entered their home.
He even praised how she made the bread and how she managed to recall our favorite dishes and desserts. “You are a superwoman,” he said. “Definitely limited edition.” I literally had it with him and said “enough” a couple of times, but he just ignored me. Meanwhile, Grace just giggled and welcomed the compliments.
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At one point, she noticed that I was no longer comfortable with Jerry’s admiration. She would try to instead compliment me, but it was like my husband heard nothing.
Even when we arrived home, the praising continued. “Honey, isn’t it amazing how Grace can manage three kids and keep their home so neat and clean? What does that woman take?!” I tried to change the topic several times and even showed him I was annoyed. Still, Jerry kept going on as if he couldn’t take a hint.
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I had enough. So, yesterday, when we went to his sister-in-law’s again, I decided to turn the tables. As soon as we arrived, I started laying it on thick. We had a barbecue on their patio and Martin was behind the grilling. “Isn’t Martin amazing?” I said to Jerry’s sister-in-law. “He helps out so much and hasn’t succumbed to the dad bod yet. How incredible.”
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My husband looked at me, startled, while his sister-in-law’s eyes widened. But I wasn’t done. “He is so fit in his 40s!” True enough, Martin was in shape and regularly went to the gym. He also watched what he ate.
I continued, ignoring the increasingly tense atmosphere. As we were about to go home, I noticed their new patio decor and added it to my list of compliments. “Did you build those, Martin?” I asked. “Wow, you have golden hands. Jerry can’t even screw in a light bulb,” I quipped.
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My brother-in-law, Martin, looked content receiving the compliments, smiling modestly. But his wife, Grace, and my husband, Jerry, visibly looked awkward. Jerry’s face turned red, and he started fidgeting.
When I mentioned how great Martin’s hair was, Jerry, who had hair problems and was slowly becoming bald, suddenly ran to our car.
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I excused myself and went after him. I found him in our car, nearly crying. “Okay, I got it,” he said. “My brother is better than me in everything, so why did you marry me then?”
Jerry went on to say that he has always been compared to his brother. However, hearing it from me made it sting even more. He went on to accuse me of being in love with his brother, and I just laughed.
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I took a deep breath and replied calmly, “I just did the same thing you’ve been doing to me for the last few years.”
“What do you mean?” he replied.
“I mean, you always praise Grace in front of my face. You’re so obsessed with that you talk about her even when we’re no longer in their home. You make her seem like a God! Maybe YOU are in love with her!”
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He was silent for a moment, then drove home suddenly. He was quiet for the rest of the evening and slept much earlier than usual.
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The next morning, he came to me with flowers and an apology. “I’m so sorry, Penelope,” he began. “I appreciated Grace’s housekeeping skills because it was hard for me to manage work and house chores. I wasn’t complimenting her in comparison to you. I was complimenting her in comparison to ME.”
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He added, “I have been feeling like a lousy husband when it comes to household work, and I just wish I could be more like her. But I hadn’t realized how my words affected you. I promise to become a better husband and pay you more attention.”
I looked at him, holding the bouquet, his eyes filled with remorse and tears about to fall. Part of me wanted to believe him, to forgive and move on. But another part of me was still hurt, still stinging from the months of feeling second best.
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The next few weeks were a mixture of cautious hope and lingering doubt. Jerry started making small changes. He was helping more around the house, planning surprise date nights, and most importantly, expressing genuine appreciation for everything I did.
Maybe everything he said was true, but the fact that my husband felt that way meant I did something or didn’t do something. Was I lacking in making him feel appreciated? Was he just that insensitive to my feelings?
Unlike Jerry, another husband has been making his wife feel wonderful. At 50, he began to change into the man he was when she fell in love.
My Husband Turned 50 and He Suddenly Became the Man I Married
My husband, Chris, and I have been married for over twenty years. He has always been a good man and a wonderful father to our kids. In the early days, he was incredibly affectionate, and couldn’t keep his hands off me. We had this electric chemistry that I thought would never fade.
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But, after the kids came along, things started to change. The affection, the romance, and even the playful flirting that we once had, all began to fade away. It got to the point where I felt like we were just roommates. I read about couples losing intimacy and romance after having children, but I didn’t think it would happen to me.
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Then, two months ago, something completely unexpected happened. Out of the blue, Chris asked me if I wanted to go away for the weekend, just the two of us. It was such a shock that I almost didn’t believe it at first. We hadn’t done something like that in years. But I agreed, hoping it would rekindle some of what we had lost.
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When we got back home, his new attitude continued. He started losing weight and getting more toned. He looked better than he did when we got married, and I found it difficult to keep my hands off him. I couldn’t help but wonder what had caused this sudden transformation.
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The True Meaning Behind “Barn Stars”
A barn star is a charming ornament that is frequently found above the door at the top of a barn.
They can be made out of metal stars or painted.Sometimes quilt blocks or hex signs are used in their place.
These items are there for a purpose, which is probably not what you initially assumed.
It turns out that barn stars are quite essential to German-American farmers.
They are placed atop barns to keep pests out or to promote healthy crop growth for the farmer.
It’s intriguing how each one may have a distinct color and significance.
For instance, a green barn star indicates good crop growth and fertility. On the other hand, a farmer, their family, and their possessions are protected when they have blue or black barn stars.
Conversely, Brown represents friendliness. Barn stars have an intriguing history.
The first barn star was applied in the 1830s. Barn stars are kind of vogue these days.
Every symbol represents a modification made to imported German traditional art from Europe.
The Amish are renowned for leading extremely austere lifestyles devoid of mainstream culture and contemporary technologies.
Among the various customs that have been carried down in this region over the years is the use of barn stars.
Even more intriguing is the fact that items that are frequently associated can have quite distinct meanings for someone whose family has deep links to Pennsylvania Dutch beliefs.
There are two rituals that run parallel to one other, according to Patrick Donmoyer: “There are the hex signs and then there are the barn stars.”
Barn Stars Could Provide Defense
Donmoyer oversees Kutztown University’s Pennsylvania German Cultural Heritage Center.
According to him, a lot of the hex signs appeared in various contexts, such as marriage certificates, to bestow good fortune upon newlyweds. or on grave markers to assist the deceased with finding peace in the hereafter.
For thousands of years, superstitions have existed, and they have all evolved over time to meet the changing needs of a global society.
Remarkably, barn stars lacked the significance or “power” that the majority of people believe them to have now.
Donmoyer states that these “were part of the agricultural way of life,” in fact.These were items that weren’t necessarily connected to paranormal ideas or occurrences.
Just so you know, hex signs originated on barns about a century after the barn stars.
Not All Hex Signs Are the Same
In order to create the hex signs, New England artist Wallace Nutting traveled to the Pennsylvania Dutch Country in 1924 and “misinterpreted” the original quilt squares or barn stars.
“He was talking about something real, but what he was talking about was missing,” Donmoyer stated.
He was discussing this concept of the hexenfoos, not the stars on the barn. He rearranged the two sections of the custom somewhat.
By the 1950s, these patterns were undergoing frequent changes and were a well-liked tourist destination.
All throughout Pennsylvania Dutch country, barn stars and quilt squares adorn barns as symbols of the ingenuity, toil, and customs of a people that have long perplexed the outside world.
These indicators highlight passed-down familial and cultural traditions.
Therefore, the Pennsylvania Dutch utilized barn stars to recall their ancestors and their homeland, despite the popular belief that they warded off evil.
Several cultures share a similar aspect.
Superstitions have a lengthy history, as was previously said.
Individuals think they can prevent evil, stop negative karma, and frequently bring money and happiness.
It should come as no surprise that many tribes and nations have modified their ancient symbols, such as barn stars, to safeguard homes and families from attack.
Om or Aum is a Buddhist and Hindu symbol.
For instance, the symbol Om is frequently employed to safeguard individuals during spiritual practices like meditation.
Though many people are familiar with the term or sound, the word itself can also have a visual meaning.
It is said to “purify” the body and psyche by striking a contented balance between tranquility and life’s challenges.
Horus’s Eye
Another example is Egypt’s Eye of Horus.
People think that the potent sign, which may be seen on jewelry or wall art from Egypt, has healing and protective properties.
Alternatively, the Hamsa Hand, which is supposed to ward against evil and bestow prosperity, health, and good fortune. It is found in the Middle East and the Mediterranean.
Turtle
On November 4, 2018, the turtle-carved “Let It Stand” totem pole is seen at the East Gate of Algonquin Park in Ontario, Canada.
Another revered symbol that fascinates me is the turtle.
For African and Native American tribes, the turtle represents fertility, longevity, knowledge, and a sense of being rooted.
Helm of Wonder
A contemporary Icelandic magical symbol bearing the same name as a Norse mythological object is called the Hood of Fear or the Hood of Awe.
Not to mention, the Norse symbol known as the Helm of Awe is said to keep warriors safe during combat and intimidate their adversaries.
similar yet distinct
Although communication between people from other countries has been difficult, technological advancements have made it simpler to see the similarities between many cultures and nations.
Every one of these symbols has a unique name and significance.
Nevertheless, every sign is interpreted as a guarantee of security, prosperity, and well-being, serving as a reminder of the wishes our forefathers had for the future of our families and communities.
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