This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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A Passenger Is Surprised by a Couple Getting Too Cozy on Flight: “Can’t Believe”
“Can’t believe my view on the plane. It was like this the whole four-hour flight,” X user captioned the pics. A plane passenger named Flea was surprised to witness two of his fellow travelers getting extremely cozy on a recent flight. He took to social media to share his frustration, posting pictures of the couple’s intimate display across a row of seats. The duo, barefoot and entwined in a spooning position, had their feet sticking out into the aisle, much to Flea’s horror.
This incident stirred the airplane etiquette debate, following others like feet on seats and seatbelts around ankles.
Flea shared three photos online showing a couple lying across three seats on a plane. The woman had her legs wrapped around her partner, with her bare foot on the tray table. In another photo, they were making a heart shape with their hands. The third picture showed the man with one bare foot on the floor while the woman rested on top of him.
Many people commented online, expressing their disapproval of the couple’s behavior, especially being barefoot and taking up multiple seats. Some questioned why the flight attendant didn’t intervene, while others were specifically bothered by the bare feet.
People started a heated debate.
One user wrote, “I would have stared at his feet the whole time.” Another user on X commented, “This isn’t even safe.”
Another commenter remarked, “Breaking up in two months.” Someone else shared, “I hated these types of couples in high school, all in the hall, slowing you down.”
This incident isn’t the first time airplane passengers have sparked debates over etiquette. Just a few weeks ago, there was an uproar when a frequent flier demonstrated a risky travel hack of wearing her seatbelt around her ankles to sit more “comfortably” during the flight.
Air travel brings people together despite occasional etiquette lapses, emphasizing diversity and mutual respect.
Despite the debates and occasional lapses in etiquette, air travel continues to connect people from all walks of life. These incidents, while they may cause frustration or amusement, also highlight the diverse experiences and perspectives we encounter during our journeys.
Ultimately, the shared experience of flying brings us together, reminding us of the importance of mutual respect and understanding in our interconnected world. What’s your take on this situation?
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