Only weeks after Millie Smith and Lewis Cann learned they were having twin baby girls, they learned that only one would survive.
On April 30, after 30 weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, Smith delivered identical twins, Callie and Skye, the latter who lived only three hours.
Later in neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), Callie slept without her sister in the incubator, with her loving and grieving parents watching over her. In the unit with other babies, an overwhelmed mom of healthy newborn twins innocently told Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have two babies.
Crushed by the words, the new mom couldn’t find the words to explain her loss. Then, she realized that Skye’s legacy was to help other families who lose a child, and it came in the form of a purple butterfly.
In November 2015 Millie Smith and partner Lewis Cann found out they were having their first Child. Smith, who has twins in the family, said she had a “gut feeling” about having a duo and 10 weeks later, doctors confirmed she was expecting identical twin girls.
Less than two weeks after the excitement of knowing they would double the children in their home, the British couple were devastated to learn that one of their babies had a fatal condition and wouldn’t survive after birth.
“During the scan, the doctor didn’t say anything. I was very excited and loved seeing the little babies, but she was silent. Both Lewis and I immediately knew there must be a problem,” Smith said.
Doctors shared the news that one of the babies had anencephaly, which according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) affects about one in 4,600 babies across the U.S. It’s a serious birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull, and “almost all babies born with anencephaly will die shortly after birth.”
Knowing that one baby would die soon after birth, and that there were risks involved for their other baby, the couple decided to move forward with the extremely high-risk pregnancy.
Over the next several months, Smith and Cann named their twins Skye and Callie. “We knew that Skye needed to have a name before she was born,” Smith said. “Knowing she would only survive for seconds or minutes, I wanted her to be named during that time.”
The meaning behind “Skye,” she explained “was somewhere we knew she would always be, that we could look up at the sky and remember our baby.”
When Smith went into labor after only 30 weeks on April 30, she needed an emergency C-section. To help navigate the loss, the couple had a “bereavement midwife” during the birth, and they were put I a special room the called the “Daisy Room,” where families can spend time with a baby before and after she/he passes.
“When the girls were born, they both cried. This was a huge moment, as we were told that Skye would not make a noise or move,” said Smith, who was thankful to have three hours with Skye before she died. “We were cuddling Skye when she passed away. This was the worst moment in our lives. I have never ever felt heartbreak like that before. But I am proud that she fought for so long to spend time with us.”
Born premature, Callie had to stay in NICU while she gained some strength and also in the unit were three other sets of twin.
“Most of the nurses were aware of what had happened, but as time passed, people stopped talking about Skye. After about four weeks, everyone acted as though nothing had happened, meaning the families around me had no idea about our situation,” Smith recalled.
One morning, a stressed mother whose twins were also in NICU, harmlessly said to Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have twins.
“None of the other parents knew what had happened or anything about Skye. The comment was completely innocent and more out of humor…They weren’t to know that I did at one point have two.” Smith continued, “But the comment nearly broke me. I ran out [of] the room in tears and they had no idea why. I didn’t have the heart to tell them what had happened. A simple sticker would have avoided that entire situation.”
It was in that moment Smith realized she had to create something that would speak for parents who had just lost a baby, ensuring the misunderstanding never happens again.
She designed a poster for the NICU explaining both hospital personnel and visitors that any incubator with a purple butterfly on it means that one or more babies, in a set of multiples were lost.
“I chose butterflies, as I felt it was fitting to remember the babies that flew away, the color purple because it is suitable for both boys or girls,” said Smith.
The purple butterfly concept–now under the Skye High Foundation–has spread to hospitals in several countries around the world.
Callie is now a lively, happy seven-year-old, and twin’s memory lives in purple butterfly cards along with other initiatives to help families with babies like Skye all over the world. The purple butterflies now come in numerous forms, like ornaments, cards, blankets, stuffed animals and more.
“Ultimately I will never be able to stop this from happening but the more support groups we can set up and put things in place like the stickers the better it will be. It’s the hardest thing anyone has to deal with,” Smith said.
Robert Downey Jr. — From Prison to the Oscars — and There’s Only One Person He Should Be Thankful To
Robert Downey Jr.’s life is like a rollercoaster ride from Hollywood rebel to everyone’s favorite superhero. Despite his struggles with bad habits and the law, he bounced back with his iconic role as Iron Man. His story is all about second chances and showing that no matter how far you fall, you can always get back up, and his latest Oscar win proves it all.
Downey spent very troubled years back in the 90s.
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Though it may seem like we’re discussing a character from an alternate reality, Downey experienced a tumultuous period between 1996 and 2001. His legal troubles began in 1996, and during this time, his first wife, Deborah Falconer, parted ways with him. In 1999, he found himself in court attire, appealing to a California judge for rehabilitation over imprisonment. Robert Downey Jr. — known as RDJ to his close circle — faced a three-year prison sentence amidst his ongoing struggle with personal challenges.
This episode was just one of many defining moments in the remarkable journey of Robert Downey Jr., known as Tony Stark, Iron Man, and Inmate No. P50522. Downey rose to fame in the 1980s with hits like Weird Science and The Pickup Artist,and had a high-profile relationship with Sarah Jessica Parker. However, after receiving an Oscar nomination for Chaplin in 1993, his career went downward. «Not a lot of people stood by his side,» remarked a source familiar with the situation. During this difficult period, he had only a «very small» support group, including his childhood friend Rob Lowe, who continued to believe in him.
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Well, not too long ago, Robert Downey Jr. faced significant challenges that rendered him virtually unemployable. However, in 2001, his latest legal issue resulted in probation, prompting him to seek rehabilitation.
Despite his turbulent past, one thing emerged as a beacon of hope: love. In 2003, Downey encountered a transformative force that helped lift him from rock bottom and set him on a path to redemption.
Love saved him.
After spending some time in jail and completing court-ordered rehab for his well-publicized bad habits, Robert faced the risk of losing his movie career. However, a pivotal role in the 2003 thriller Gothika, where he agreed to receive most of his payment after filming, marked a turning point in his life. When Susan Levin first crossed paths with Robert on the set, she wasn’t initially smitten. However, the Hollywood producer soon found herself drawn to him.
Yet her affection came with a firm condition: Robert had to choose between his personal battles and their relationship. This ultimatum proved effective, as they tied the knot in 2005 and remain together to this day. Despite the challenges, Robert and Susan have enjoyed 17 years of marital happiness, standing as one of Hollywood’s most admired couples.
Even during his Oscar speech, Robert Downey Jr. couldn’t help but express gratitude to his wife, offering a heartfelt tribute. Known for his humor, Downey Jr. kicked off his speech with jokes, quipping that he’d like to thank his «terrible childhood» and the Academy, in that particular sequence.
Amidst the laughter, he playfully acknowledged his wife, Susan Downey, thanking her with a humorous twist. «Thank my veterinarian — I meant wife — Susan Downey over there,» he jestingly remarked. Reflecting on their relationship, he credited her for rescuing him like a snarling pet and nurturing him back to life. In his eyes, her love and support were the reasons for his presence on that prestigious stage.
Downey Jr. has undeniably become the iconic Iron Man for everyone.
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In 2008, Robert Downey Jr.’s career took a meteoric rise with his starring role in the summer blockbuster Iron Man. This marked the beginning of his resurgence in Hollywood. Alongside Iron Man, Downey also shined in the acclaimed comedy Tropic Thunder, earning his second Oscar nomination for his role.
However, his portrayal of Tony Stark in Iron Man and subsequent appearances in Marvel films, including The Avengers, established him as a pivotal figure in the Marvel Cinematic Universe. Downey’s involvement in the Marvel universe, including reprising his role in subsequent Iron Man movies, solidified his status as a critical player for Marvel Studios. Additionally, his performances in other projects, such as the Sherlock Holmes franchise, showcased his talent and range as an actor.
Once viewed as «someone bad» due to personal struggles, Downey has since transformed his career trajectory. Now in recovery after over 15 years, studios and directors actively seek him out for his undeniable talent and professionalism. His ability to shine again has not only fueled his personal growth but has also contributed to the ongoing success of his career.
He won his first Oscar as «Best supporting actor».
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Robert Downey Jr. has secured the Oscar for Best Supporting Actor for his portrayal in Christopher Nolan’s Oppenheimer. His victory sheds light on the complexities of the Academy’s supporting categories, and Downey’s performance is undeniably stellar, showcasing his trademark nervy and twitchy charisma.
This triumph caps off a remarkable awards season for the star, adding to his victories at the Golden Globes, Critic’s Choice Awards, SAG Awards, and BAFTA Film Awards.
During his acceptance speech, Downey expressed gratitude to his collaborators on Oppenheimer, including director Nolan, producer Emma Thomas, and his co-stars and fellow Oscar nominees Cillian Murphy and Emily Blunt. He humbly acknowledged his need for the job and praised the exceptional cast and crew assembled for the film.
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Reflecting on the significance of their work, Downey emphasized the importance of the stories they choose to tell. He concluded by acknowledging how the experience had transformed him for the better, highlighting the meaningfulness of their profession and the impact of the projects they undertake.
Robert Downey Jr.’s story is truly inspiring—it proves that anyone can turn their life around and shine brightly once again with love and determination. Now, he’s not just focusing on himself; he’s also committed to helping others and making a difference in the world. Like a real superhero, he’s using his influence to do good in the world, both for people and the earth.
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